For the past days, a friend has been nurturing deep emotional pain. Apparently she was told so many negative perceptions about herself, which she believes are not true. She felt it was most unfair for a friend to share past perceptions about her. The conversation seemed to be trivial, but my friend was hurt and she wanted to end her relationship with the person whom she had learned to love. He asked for forgiveness, but the hurt cut deep into her being. While she pretended that everything was all right, actually the pain was there and it gnawed into her being. The following day she was not able to resume her regular activities.
There are many women who just can’t move past their pain. It keeps coming back like a broken record and they suffer for it. They miss on life and on healthy relationships.
Dr. Charlene M. Proctor wrote a book, “The Women’s Book of Empowerment,” which offer ways to overcome the past. She says, ”Never allow the past to hold you back from enjoying a full life. What have you got to lose, except a heavy burden? Forgiveness is usually the key to moving forward, which is why it’s on the path to gaining insight. When you forgive yourself, and those who have hurt you, you are able to release negative patterns that visit you over and over again. More important, you will finally sever the control that a memory of another person has over you. Stay in the present, affirm the good that has been a result of a bad situation, and love your authentic self even more than you did yesterday. You can do it!”
Say to yourself in order to change your attitude, “Today I change my focus by championing a new cause. I am the ambassador of positive thinking. I spread health, wealth, love, and happiness wherever I go. I love watching how my positive statements dissolve negativity in others. I am my own instrument of renewal of positive energy, and my positive outlook is stored deep within me. Every positive statement I make is rewarded.”
There are those who may find it difficult to release the past. Try to tell yourself, “Today I take all my unhappy memories out of my body and place them in a basket. My pain, my anger, and my resentments are placed in this basket. I have an angel that takes this basket of unhappiness from my hands and flies to the outer reaches of the universe and transforms it into loving energy that will revisit me later today. I forgive those around me and ask for divine assistance to hold me in a state of continual forgiveness.”
Some women find trouble forgiving what another has done to cause the hurt. Perhaps, she should psyche herself and say, “I forgive because I am capable of expressing compassion. By forgiving, I release this situation from my energy field and feel clear-headed and full-hearted. I forgive because I am able to rise to my higher self and feel lighter. My light knows no boundaries when I forgive. Life feels lighter when I forgive.”
Let’s move past our pain and forgive the way the Bible says – “seventy times seven.” Life is beautiful.